How To Survive A Holiday Romance
By Victoria Ugarte
“The sound of a kiss is not so loud as that of a cannon, but its echo lasts a great deal longer.” - OLIVER WENDELL HOLMES, SR. AMERICAN PHYSICIAN, PROFESSOR, LECTURER, AND AUTHOR.
Summer’s up, you’ve got a fun bunch of girlfriends heading off to the Caribbean for a couple of weeks, and you’ve got some time up your sleeve. Having just broken up with your man, what could better for your ego right now than a tropical holiday romance. And why not. There’s nothing more enchanting than spending time with someone special in picturesque surroundings, discovering different experiences, and relating to your new ‘friend’ in a way that you wouldn’t get a chance to do back home. Life becomes magical and you wish that time could stand still.
But before you get carried away, holiday romances do have their pitfalls. You can be left feeling empty and heartbroken when the holiday is over. Things can also sour quickly if your ‘friend’ meets someone else during the holiday, or you might have discovered that they have a spouse and children back home. You might even have ended up with more than you bargained for if you failed to use protection. Can you see how quickly an idyllic holiday can very quickly turn into a nightmare? Yet it’s nearly impossible to recognize the pitfalls in the first flushes of infatuation.
Here are a few tips that will help you remain grounded during a holiday romance, and how to keep your dignity intact.
Relax & Have Fun:
Focus on having a romance with yourself first. Relax, have fun, and get involved in activities. Pamper yourself. By enjoying your surroundings and meeting new friends, you will ensure that you have a wonderful time, regardless of whether you end up having a romance or not. The best romances come at the most unexpected moments. It can be the person you met on the plane, on tour, or even one of the locals.
Cherish The Moment:
Some people are on the lookout for a life partner, and they bring these expectations with them on holidays. However, you could be sorely disappointed if you approach a holiday with this mindset. Holidays are transient by nature. People meet each other, make friends, exchange contact details, and promise to stay in touch when they return home. Filled with the best of intentions, the relationships tend to fade after a few months. While there is every possibility that a more permanent relationship may develop after the trip, you can deal with that if or when it happens. But until then, just cherish the moment!
Protection, Protection, Protection:
At the risk of stating the obvious, always practice safe sex. Otherwise, you could be going home with more than you’ve bargained for in the form of sexually transmitted diseases, HIV, or even an unplanned pregnancy. This means carrying a reliable brand of condoms from home with you as they may or may not be available at your destination. It is naive to assume that your new-found partner is free of HIV or any sexually transmitted infections.
Go Easy On The Drugs & Alcohol:
Part and parcel of protecting yourself involves not drinking yourself into oblivion and/or doing drugs. This dulls your frontal lobe and impairs your judgment, which sometimes translates into getting involved with someone unsavory and living to regret it in the morning, or worse. You could end up jeopardizing your personal safety. Besides, you’d look far more attractive and have a much better time if you were clear eyed and coherent.
Don’t Ditch Your Friends:
Don’t neglect your friends just because you’ve gotten involved in a holiday romance; your friends are the ones that can step in if you get yourself into trouble. They can also be the voice of reason when you’re on the verge of making a crazy decision. A great idea is to introduce your new date to your friends. Let your friends know where you’re going if you’re heading off somewhere else with your date, and make sure that you can contact them easily should something go wrong.
If you’re the jealous or anxious type who will obsess over whether your ‘friend’ has had other flings with other travelers like you, and chances are they have, then you may want to put the breaks on before your friendship becomes more than just a platonic one. Otherwise, you could be setting yourself up for heartache.
How To Say Goodbye:
Yes, ladies, this day will inevitably arrive. It’s best to conduct your good-byes with as much dignity as you can muster. Tell your ‘friend’ what a brilliant time you had. This will end your holiday romance on a good note. If you don’t want to be contacted after you part, then be honest about it without being rude. Should you both choose to continue your relationship after the holiday, then congratulations! That’s another chapter for another day.
About The Author: Victoria Ugarte, the Intrepid Traveler, is becoming known around the world as one of the most recognized faces of travel and culturally correct behavior. Victoria has authored several books with Amazon, including “Culture Savvy For Women” and “Travel Bible For Women”. You can find Victoria's books by clicking here.